teslekova

joined 3 weeks ago
[–] teslekova@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Lemonade Battlepass!

[–] teslekova@lemmy.ml 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

A thousand times yes. My (m) partner (nonbinary) was, for years, in a disaster of a relationship where, among other issues, they felt trapped into cooking dinner every night. They had made a deal with their girlfriend that they would cook and she would clean up. She stopped cleaning up consistently. However, my partner is a stubborn person who has trouble ending their own side of a deal even if the other person breaks their part.

I have therefore resolved never, ever to ask them to cook, or even ask questions about what they're having for dinner, to avoid this becoming a problem in our relationship.

However, they actually love cooking. We're both autistic, and cooking is one of the things that calms their brain.

They offer me dinner almost every night. I'm eating good, nutritious food most of the time now. I'm losing weight (which I need to do).

I do offer to cook or order delivery if they are particularly exhausted, and I have made it quite clear that I'm happy to be asked to do so, since I never had that problem.

It's working great. If our relationship goes bad, at least it won't be for that reason. Doing well so far, almost a year in.

[–] teslekova@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 week ago

How did you write this? Are you a wizard?

[–] teslekova@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 week ago

Yeah. Used to be like that. What a shitty way to live. Denying any need to change by claiming superior intelligence over the people suggesting change, even though you're desperately unhappy.

[–] teslekova@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 weeks ago

Air force and navy.

[–] teslekova@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 weeks ago

I think the point is oligarch bad.

[–] teslekova@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 weeks ago

Exactly. Helping organise a genocide in Myanmar, sure, that's bad, but on the other hand, money!