Hey thank you so much for responding! I really like this concept in the language of non-orientation based preferences colliding with traditional descriptions.
This is my first time ever seeing E4E considered, and you’re kind of blowing my mind! I think it works really well
I see, thank you for clarifying
Continuing from this clarification, I have not suggested anything that anyone must do
As I reread my initial message and the many relaxed and positive replies from others, I feel like what I’m saying is clearly very different from your summary, which is what makes me believe we are experiencing some type of linguistic disconnect
Doesn’t need to be proper! I use queer as well, it’s widely used in my in-person community. I tend to avoid using “queer” online sometimes just because it seems like it can still be a heavy word in other places, but it also seems like I’m seeing it used more often anyway
There is no hinting. I am directly accusing you of interpretive cherry picking, with the added politeness of suggesting that it may be unintentional. I will continue to be polite in this fashion, although I have growing doubts as to your sincerity.
And that’s all good and all feels very natural, and nobody should feel pressured to be anything else
Since you read that, what about it sounded judgy and prescriptivist?
Yeah but how would you motivate people to keep their abusive underpaying jobs without the implicit threat of homelessness?
Oh, are you one of those people who just skim over random words from a paragraph and respond based on the vibe of what you think was said?
I’ve considered that, and I agree in theory, but is that something that occurs on the level of sexual attraction?
In practice I feel like it’s a romantic quality, i.e. “since we are both non-binary, I feel we understand each other and I feel especially safe with you, and in fact this type of relationship is the only one I would want”,
I suppose in this manner you could easily be a gay demisexual enbie, but I wonder of the larger cohort of people who experience a more immediate sexual attraction
Again, not that it’s important to have this all ironed out neatly. I just feel like it hasn’t been ironed out neatly, you know?
Hey as long as we’ve got experts here, could a purely non binary person be considered gay or heterosexual in any configuration or are they always bisexual? Even if only as a limitation of the language?
To elaborate on that I am nonbinary and bisexual myself and without missing a beat it’s like every non-binary person I meet is also bisexual. And that’s all good and all feels very natural, and nobody should feel pressured to be anything else
But like, if I was trying to not be bisexual, what would that look that? Would I just start listing specific preferences and the orientation just wouldn’t have a particular name?
And there’s a million and one different reasons why the context behind a piece causes someone to dislike it even if they initially liked it. It works the other way too, if you like something and you find out it had a cool story behind it, lots of people will like it even more.
“I fish the least digested looking bits of corn from the shit pile” is just not a good story lol
I’m gonna go against the grain here and recommend 7-zip
Why hang out somewhere you wish didn’t exist?
Yes the number is large, but you must weigh the environmental cost against the many benefits we as a society have gained from teaching computers how to incorrectly summarize emails and somehow even simple excel spreadsheets