ApathyTree

I used to work at a company that processed business-end taxes.

I’m going to make my American compatriots very uncomfortable - I've very possibly seen your full social and address info. We handled about a third of all business taxes. I don’t care to use any of it, cuz I also got wage info. Y’all broke. (Same)

because the company I worked for processed your taxes. And your HR people are garbage and don't know how to do their job.

I cannot tell you how many times I had to request my IT team to scrub files from our retention policy because your shitty HR sent it to me in cleartext to troubleshoot instead of through our encrypted box.

What’s a disposable barbecue? I’m kinda guessing through context that you mean charcoal rather than gas powered?

Honestly, linux for me (yes I know where I am). Love the software and options, but holy shit is the fanbase incredibly opinionated and full of condescension about it. Also they don’t know how to shut the fuck up about it, and constantly bring it up where it doesn’t belong. Like its a personality trait to them or something.

On re-read I think I may have misread what you wrote but ima leave this up anyway.

People used to have like.. hopes that they could support their kids.. we haven't had that for a while now so birth rates are falling faster than they would otherwise. That’s all thats missing from my story above.

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The post title is “point of view: you are a 4th generation North American” thus it’s specifically about North Americans to begin with.

Baby boomers are a thing that really only exist (at least to my knowledge) in developed/western nations, due to them being a post-war cohort. Basically countries involved in WW2, after the war killed off millions of young men, saw a surge in births to recover population. Baby boomers. Countries not involved in the war didn't have the baby boom the way western countries did, because why would they? There was no pressure to restore their population numbers.

Since the meme is about baby boomers, specifically, being selfish, which is inherently a developed-country problem, as well as specifically about being a north American, people in developing countries having less access to family planning is entirely irrelevant, even if it is true.

Hope that helps :) if not I can try again.

Yeah, so this post is POV North American per title, the problem of selfish boomers is one that afaik only developed countries even have, so while you are correct, its entirely irrelevant to the conversation at hand, which is why I didn't say anything about it.

Women have multiple ways to avoid pregnancy. Men have multiple ways to avoid pregnancy. People who are educated about their options exercise those options like all the time, which is why so many of us don’t have kids at all. Myself very much included. Thats why birth rates are declining so drastically.

Unless you are saying women can’t use birth control or get abortions for some reason..? Or abstain entirely as young people seem to be doing in surprisingly large numbers?

“Kids have a way of happening” is basically saying other people don't or shouldn’t have bodily autonomy… kinda fucked up.

I wonder if second-sleeping would help you.

You go to bed pretty early, like within a couple hours of sunset early, let yourself wake up naturally around midnight, stay awake doing low-key activities (sex, have a snack, read a book by candle light, talk to your bedmate if they are up, etc. basically candle-light-or-darker activities, a low-wattage warm white bulb on a dimmer does nicely, as do flickering candelabra bulbs) then around like 2-3, fall back asleep until a bit after dawn.

Thats the sleep pattern humans had, as far as we can tell, for all of history before the invention of artificial lighting (its mentioned so casually, with zero explanation, in historical documents as to just be the de facto experience), and its a pattern a lot of people naturally fall back to, but with improper timing so they don’t make it to the second sleep phase, and just end up with a dysfunctional rhythm that has them waking at 4. Or they fully fall into the pattern and feel great, like my retired aunt, but are worried because it’s “not normal”.

That feels so claustrophobic for the poor belowdecks person. You think they do seating based on phobia for this shit? You know, make the experience of flying just a tiny bit more miserable with bodily dread and stuff?

I got sick of the price gouging so I got a bidet for $25 and a pack of 60 cotton washcloths for $30, and other than for guests and such, I just don't use TP anymore. If I’m wiping after a bowel movement, it goes into the laundry and isn't used again until washed (sanitary cycle with bleach). So each cloth is used for a day at most.

I know that probably sets off the squick for a lot of people, but it is basically the same soil level as worn underpants (and way less gross than cloth diapers!), since the bidet takes care of the actual mess, so it just doesn’t bother me, and in the long run saves a ton. Extra bonus, I never run out!

3 yrs 2.1 k comments on this account and probably another thousand scattered between other accounts, and not a single one made the list :(

I’ll have to try harder for the next one, I guess.

Lol yeah, like I wanna live like a refugee in my native country. And I’m wrong somehow for not being OK with that?

Get fucked with that shit, friend. I’m not willing to gamble what little I have on possibility, better infrastructure or not. Its not like that would change the regime I’m under or anything.

I’m not who you replied to, but this is a stupid take.

My area doesn't have public transit to speak of, its semi-rural small town, and everything is in another town, so I’m forced to drive. Everywhere around here is like this. I explicitly do not have the option to move to a more urban area because I live in a very low cost of living area, which means very depressed wages, and I genuinely cant afford to move, much less live somewhere with walkable infrastructure or decent public transit, without better wages first. Because no, getting rid of everything and starting over isn’t an option, nor should it have to be.

And I didn't choose to be here in the first place, either. When you are born into a very low cost of living area, you often get stuck there or can only move somewhere even further behind, because wages are so depressed you can’t save enough to get into a better area. The only way you get out is if you can land a good job before moving, which is insanely difficult, since remote work usually scales to the local wages, and who can afford to travel for in-person interviews?

Just move is easy to say when you can bring home more than you pay in bills, or have enough in savings to cover a few months until you find work or whatever, and its really easy to say when you already live in an expensive area. But its not actually a practical option for many of us.

So idk about that other person, but yes, I’m fucking tired of being told to just move if I don't like how things are. Condescending out-of-touch bullshit, is what it is.