searabbit

Whether conscious or not is up for debate but race is often used in movies around the world to show the contrast between good/attractive/wealthy (white) vs bad/ugly/poor (dark skinned) characters. Even within the same country, main characters are white and tall while servants and background characters are darker and shorter.

I know it's not even about local populations in the US because a lot of immigrants in LA specifically are light-skinned but those actors usually end up playing white characters more often.

Can I eat experience too or...?

I'm so disappointed to see the weird reactive hatred for women (and the gaslighting about it regardless of how obvious it is!) is not exclusive to reddit threads. It didn't even used to be so prevalent on reddit either back in the day (although the objectification did use to be way worse), so this is signaling to me that it's actually a cultural shift and young boys are becoming more hostile towards women :(

As for the title, why did it have to be gendered in the first place? And why get so defensive about the gendering? We all know everyone of all genders does this shit. That's not groundbreaking information.

You just explained the connotation and presented it as a difference in definition, but an ultimatum is just attaching consequences to a "hard boundary" or "deal-breaker." Usually, the consequence is just walking away from the relationship. I know in real life it often does turn abusive, and you can have an abusive ultimatum, "have sex with me or I will hurt you," but it's not inherently abusive.

Even your examples are ultimatums but said more kindly.

“I feel neglected when you play video games so much instead of spending time with me, what can we do to find something that works for both of us. If we can’t find a solution, I worry about the sustainability of our relationship”

The boundary is "being in a relationship with someone who plays video games so much" and, assuming the status quo is not acceptable, what turned it into an ultimatum is "I worry about the sustainability of our relationship." I.e., I'm going to break up with you if you don't play less video games than you are now. Just because you would like to stay in the relationship and keep playing video games at the same rate does not make it abusive. What would make it abusive is if there's a pattern of manipulation that puts the ultimatum in a negative context.

That's a cool concept that I'm gonna find a way to incorporate into my vocabulary from now on

A lot of these engineers get stuck in sisyphian goals where if they just work a little bit harder for a little bit longer they'll get the boulder over the hill and finally "make it." It's not about the money; it's the promise of early retirement and justifying the sacrifices they've made to get to this point in their careers. But yeah, part of the sacrifice is their morals.

I agree with this. They should've known. And at least chinese teams are coming out with new ways to make these models more efficient and smaller. They're improving on the work they stole and then making it open source which I love to see.

Not a great argument when corporate and military espionage is like China's expertise

Yeah this is not surprising because at the end of the day, the degree is a class signal. The upper class want a system where their kids don't have to put in much work to benefit and that requires increasingly impossible barriers of entry for the lower classes. You having the balls to call the bluff worked out in your favor, and you're definitely not the first to figure it out.

Some of these commenters are so naive. Loads of kids pay their way into Harvard and Yale, then party through them, easily get the degree (because learning and discipline is not the point, the point is the exclusivity and the network), and then get a job through their family or family's connections where they don't actually have to know anything to do it.

You know you can do both right now...go read a book on the internet under a tree. In fact, I recommend reading Brave New World specifically. It'll be a good time (no sarcasm).