DaGeek247

I appreciate all the work you put into writing about and belittling my experiences. Please reconsider your priorities.

I'm autistic. More importantly I'm also empathetic; too many people have told me that women don't appreciate being approached by strange people except in very specific circumstances. It's not just a person risk vs personal reward calculation. It's also a risk of how whoever I approach may be affected as well. It's a calculation of what the reward actually is. Getting a date could be fun, but I'm not so sure it's worth ruining someone (or several someone's) else's evening to obtain it. I'm also very sure that the amount of times I would have to try, in order to learn how to flirt, is much higher than a neurotypical person's would be.

Just because you think that learning to flirt with people is a skill worth having does mean it is one I think is one worth having, independant of any of the risks or realities of what learning to flirt might actually entail.

this is unreasonable.

I'll thank you not to decide my experiences for me.

It's a skill where fucking it up has the possible consequence of being labeled a creep, or worse. Makes it a lot harder to get into when participating could ruin your life. Many people have written off flirting / approaching in person entirely because of this.

Note the "possible". Fear means people are less likely to do something, not that there is some sort of assessment on the likelyhood of a risk actually happening.

That another way that healthy relationships can work, yes. But yours is not the only way.

It is in a healthy relationship.

Oh. That's a no brainer for anyone who regularly uses their network though? I have a 70gb music library I move around a lot for my mp3 player because I'm still playing with conversion settings. The difference between a 15 minute transfer vs a 3 minute transfer is huge if it keeps coming up. Before that it was large amounts of family vhs recordings getting moved. Platee has their own example just below me too.

1gbps is plenty for like, the family watching Netflix or YouTube or whatever, but anyone running a homelab will eventually run into long wait times when playing around with the server and nas at just 1gbps. Maybe you don't care and just wait it out, but for me at least, part of the fun is getting new parts, and then actually seeing those parts getting used entirely. A 16 port sfp switch isn't necessarily cheap, but around 300$ means it could be this months hobby purchase without too much fuss.

16sfp ports is basically a single home office amount.

You got the outside wire to firewall, firewall to router, router to your pc, wife pc, kid pc, home NAS, and home server. Maybe another one to a poe switch for cameras and doorbells too. Nine ports needed with just a basic setup.