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An expert display of narcissism. He completely dismisses how she feels and then tells her that she is the problem.
Yes, "It's me or your video games" strongly suggests, in this fictional scenario, that it's by no means the first time this issue has been brought up. Even if that were the case, however, the reply by the guy would be arrogant and selfish, since it ignores his partner's needs instead of respecting them.
Maybe, maybe not. It could be that he's actually neglecting her for video games. It could be that her idea of "neglect" is any time at all pursuing his own hobbies. Both scenarios occur, I don't think it's reasonable to say this "strongly" suggests one in particular.
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~~I don’t think~~ it’s [not] reasonable to say this “strongly” suggests one in particular.
Disagree. He had a choice to either hear that she was experience pain/duress or that she's exaggerating and/or misunderstanding. In either case, if he truly cares about her then he could/should seek to understand, communicate, and (if appropriate) compromise. That he immediately dismissed her and only talked of himself makes it clear that he's an uncaring narcissist.
I appreciate that you want to give him the benefit of the doubt. Narcissists depend on this. When they show you who they are, believe them.
And she had a chance to communicate her frustrations without making an ultimatum.
That she immediately issued an ultimatum instead of trying to open a productive dialogue about it more strongly suggests that she's the uncaring narcissist. Ultimatums aren't healthy.