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If she is saying this at this point it feels like she feels that he is neglecting her to play video games
So the line 'While you are obviously more important to me than some silly games' is not obvious at all, to the point where she feels like she is not important to him at all and thus worth ending the relationship over (since there is effectively no relationship)
In fact I'd argue this is a complete strawman of a meme and designed entirely just to make 1 person look bad and the other feel smug and superior ๐ค
It seems like you've never had a partner who tries to totally monopolize your time, and treats any time not spent focused on them as neglect. I can assure you this is no straw man.
Literally sitting on the same couch with her leaning on me, I'm reading a book and she is watching tv; "I don't feel like we spend any time together anymore."
I reckon people have different opinions on "what spending time together" entails - ranging from
for some folks it means you can't have any other hobbies/friends/interests that dont include them.
this is called co-dependency.
I had a girlfriend once who basically would not let me leave the house without her, to like even go buy milk. she was so insecure she lacked object permanence. Of course, I didn't know this about her until we lived together. But basically after a few months we broke up because I was basically living with a toddler, and in her mind I was the abusive awful person, for thinking I could go leave the house for 5 minutes without her, and fi I wanted to like come home later and get some time alone, that was ABUSE.
Oh right, and she used to run every morning and if I was feeling sick or otherwise not up to running with her... I was ABUSING HER.
Her own parents tried to talk her down out of absurd was she was being, but she simple took that as me having manipulated her parents to my side... yeah... she was not well.
Wow that sounds like an insane relationship. I guess she only really dared being herself after you moved in together? Hopefully you managed to get out without too many scars on your soul.
We were both each other's first serious partner, we had no clue what we were doing. We just loved each other and thought that was all that mattered. It was 15 years ago so it's pretty much an afterthought. I had worse partners since her who were not just ignorant, but straight up malicious and manipulative.
My partner sometimes mentions spending more time together. I want it to be more quality time though and not just sat watching brainrot reality TV.
At least that isn't all she watches, there are some things she likes that I do enjoy watching together. But when she finds a few new reality TV things and watches that I will just go and do something else.
been in that relationship where 'time together' is 'do shit that i like, that you hate'.
But never the other way around. Bad relationship.
People have different opinions and views of this.
If you can't clearly communicate to your partner what your definition is? What your needs and boundaries are?
You are too immature to be in a relationship.
There are waaaaaay too many gray areas... people are different, in many little ways.
You cannot rely on the non existent mind reading capabilities of your partner, you have to use your words.