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Insanely wrong, like didn’t-watch-the-same-movie wrong

I literally scrubbed through the movie again as I was replying to you to make sure I had everything correct and to pull direct quotes, so maybe you're the one who is misremembering? In that scene, we hear the MUSIC of the box when Nikki opens it, and that is when he panics and starts trying to vomit. THEN we hear the snap of the wand, his face changes, and he goes out to her. And of course she wished for him to feel the same way - that was obvious.

He did not know he was raping Nikki because there were two Nikki's sharing the same body, and the one actively controlling the body consented. That's why I referenced Severance, but there's all sorts of fantasy and sci-fi about the horrors of the nature of consciousness and physical form. LATER in the movie, we finally hear from the real Nikki that "I've never been with you Bear", which is reinforcing this.

She is absolutely messed up, and she doesn’t have any real ability to consent regardless of if she is possessed by a wish or if she is on drugs or if she is having a manic episode, so any sex he has would 100% be rape

Earlier in the movie, we see Bear initially backs away from Nikki's advances when her behavior is disturbing. He The date scene happens after a montage of what appears to be weeks of them in a happy and consensual relationship, including having sex. The date scene is only the 2nd moment she shows of any odd behavior, and that behavior is still relatively mild and within the realm of normal humans being human. The horror lies in the dramatic irony that we, the audience, know that is not the real Nikki while Bear does not.

Couples have arguments and difficulties, and they have make-up sex too. Bear is trusting Nikki to communicate her own boundaries and respecting those boundaries when she does, like not wanting to talk about her father. As soon as they move on from that conversation, Nikki's behavior reverts back to normal - she is clearly not on drugs or having a manic episode. I interpret that scene as him forgiving her for lying to him about her father and being willing to move on from it. To repeat - the horror lies in the dramatic irony that we, the audience, know that is not the real Nikki while Bear does not. The fake Nikki is in control of Nikki's body and experiencing consensual sex while the real Nikki is experiencing rape. In fact, you might describe the entire past few weeks of having another consciousness take control of your body as rape, not just the sex scenes in particular. That is not something Bear chose or was even aware of at first, but rather something the One Wish Willow did.

It is also worth noting that is the last time that they have sex. That night is when Bear catches her watching him sleep, and THEN her behavior degenerates into things like cooking his cat and taping the door shut.

debating that makes you an incel because that is what incels would do. I don’t make the rules on that last part.

It sure seems like you're making the rules and making up new definitions for what an incel is. This is basic media analysis and criticism, and I'm not insulting you for having takes I disagree with about a movie.

It is weird you think he cares about her because he brings her to the hospital when there is the long pause where he zones the fuck out while people are yelling at him to bring her to a hospital after she smashes herself in the face with a brick after telling everyone her poem about incest (ya know, because she thinks of Bear like a brother.)

The pause is for the pacing of the movie, to let the shock of it all hit the audience. To show his fear and uncertainty. It's creating drama and tension. This scene happens after the point when their relationship has deteriorated - it is not as if we are treated to another happy-go-lucky montage of them having fun together after this. It is not as if Bear is trying to use her vulnerable moment here to get in her pants. In fact, once they get home Bear tells her he plans to stay the night at Ian's. Something he probably should have done long ago, but once of his character flaws is that he's slow. This scene is also more evidence that he cares about her - she uses that to manipulate him into staying with her. If Bear did not care about her feelings and emotions, fake Nikki would not have been able to manipulate him into staying with her as long as she did.

Bear is the villain of the movie. Just because he doesn’t seem like the villain at first doesn’t mean he is a good guy

Let's do some character analysis.

Nikki is the biggest victim in all of this of course. Her free will and body were violated in a horrific manner, and I think we both agree there. Honestly I think most of where we disagree is that you seem to want to stop there and ONLY view the movie from Nikki's perspective and no one else's.

Sarah is a victim. She's a relatively minor character, but she clearly has a crush on Bear. From her perspective, she had a conversation with her friend Nikki in which she expressed that, and Nikki talked about how she only saw Bear as a friend, then suddenly they are dating and Nikki has abandoned her entirely. So she feels hurt that Bear does not return her feelings, and she feels like Nikki lied to her and betrayed her by dating Bear. And, of course, she ends up getting violently killed by Nikki. It is worth noting that, despite being Nikki's friend, she does not really show much concern for Nikki and is instead focused on her own feelings, but that's understandable given the circumstances.

Ian is a victim in that he ends up dying. He's also the most directly malevolent and selfish character we see. He tells Bear not to express his feelings to Nikki, and recommends calling her "freaky Nikki". He has known about Bear's feelings for Nikki for some time and appears to be his friend, so at first we assume this is simply honest and misguided advice. We later see him express some concern about their relationship, and think he is trying to be a good friend. Then Sarah reveals that Ian and Nikki have been secretly "hooking up" for the past 2 years, which changes the context of all of those interactions. We now see that Ian was actively lying to Bear to sabotage him, and that his "concern" for Nikki was actually him being upset that he was no longer having sex with her. When Bear shows up at his house distraught, covered in blood, and asking for help, Ian plays it off as a joke and dismisses Bear. Then he makes his wish, gets his money and... is too happy about suddenly having a billion dollars to care about what this means for Bear and Nikki. I would still not call Ian a "villain", but he is certainly an antagonist.

Bear is neither a "villain" nor a "good guy", he's just the protagonist. He is flawed: he does not understand what love is, he is insecure, he is passive, he is too trusting of others. He trusts Ian's advice about things like not telling Nikki about his feelings and calling her "freaky Nikki". He trusts the fake Nikki with all of her reassurances and consent. He never tries to manipulate her - the only thing he does is express his desire in a moment of privacy and frustration. He doesn't wish for her to have sex with him, he doesn't wish for her mind to be replaced with some evil entity that is obsessed with him, he doesn't wish for her to change, he just wishes that she loved him. He DOES care about Nikki, and the fake Nikki uses that against him.

In the opening scene, he doesn’t say a single thing about who Nikki is for why he likes her. He only says things about himself. He says she makes him feel good, that she was there for him. But he doesn’t say anything about her that doesn’t involve him. Because he doesn’t love her.

In the opening scene, yes he talks about how Nikki makes him feel, but not in a passive way. He does not want to go out with her because she's hot or has social status, but because she is kind and caring. When he talks about her being there to support him, I interpret that as a pretty strong statement about who Nikki is. He literally says "Well, I realized who you are. And then, after Nana passed, you were the one that called called" We do not know - was Ian there to support him? Was Sarah, who has a crush on Bear?

He then goes on to say, "So I keep telling myself, "Don't tell her. She's too good. And she'll... you'll lose her. But maybe you should know... that I would choose you over everything." And when he says that, the anonymous waitress sitting as a proxy for Nikki smiles and laughs and seems almost charmed herself. Ian stops him and says he is cringey, but the waitress says she thought it was sweet. That is not just Bear talking about how she makes him feel, but hard evidence of Bear believing that he knows who she is and caring for her. And, of course, foreshadowing that he will eventually kill himself for her.

Finally, this gets a bit more abstract, but I would lump the One Wish Willow, the company that makes it, and fake Nikki into one magical entity that comprise the closest thing to a villain that the story has. The clerk in the beginning mentions other people coming back and complaining, meaning that Bear is not the first victim. What Bear receives is not really love, it is... Obsession.