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IDK, have you considered that perhaps the people demanding to be approached/questioned in a specific way are the friction point here?
Even on the nohello site, the "right" and "wrong" conversations are the exact same length (two messages each way). I genuinely struggle to see the point of any of this.
The hello is not the issue. But getting a notification before the question is.
Ultimately what happens if there's a bunch of "helloers" approaching you, you end up muting the messaging app and only check messages every X time. Rather than being available, pros and cons. And there's definitely an argument to be had, that it's the superior way of working - But hello only people, just shoot themselves in their foot and get longer time to response
I should probably clarify that it's pretty rare for me to receive a message that's literally just "hello" or "hi" followed by nothing. At the least I'll see the typing indicator so I know there's more coming, but the link in the status message just reads passive aggressive. Also - is the person that's sending you a ping or SYN really going to notice your status?
I know for a fact several did, as I've had a lot of former hello only people ask about the status through the years